I am overweight and 3 months ago my boss (owner of the company) had a meeting with my about my confidence level. He said I would probably have my confidence boosted if I lost 50 lbs.
It didn't upset me it was true, but I told him that I actually started losing weight 3 weeks ago (I actually did) and lost 15 lbs already. Now this is where 2 hurtful things he said came. First one was "it doesn't look like it". Fucking really? How encouraging is that. I don't expect him to say he notices that I lost weight or anything(because I doubt I actually did look any different) but what kind of comment is that?
The 2nd thing that was really hurtful was he asked "do you have diabetes?" Ok so he is concerned about me, so I said "no", but then he said "Oh, that's surprising, most people your size do". WTF.. I mean luckily for me I think he is a giant fucking idiot douchebag already, so I just think of him even worse, but those 2 comments did sting a little. If it would have been someone else who was more emotional or had depression or massive self-image issues they would have been left in tears or worse.
My boss is 70 years old chain smoker, I thought of it after, but I wish I would have said "do you have cancer?" and when he said no, reply with "oh, I am surprised, most people your age who still chain smoke are pretty much on their death bed"
This is a small company so he IS the HR, so don't really have someone I could go to. Luckily I love my job other than my boss (which I don't have to interact with very often) so I just shrug it off best I can.
Of course when I lose my weight he will probably be all self congratulating thinking how much of a motivational person he is motivating me to lose weight, forgetting that I told him I already started 3 weeks before the meeting.