Don't talk to many women do you? Just ask a woman. Ask your mother. I think you will be surprised how common it is.
Ask simple questions like:
Have you ever felt unsafe because of the comments men are making about you?
I'm not responsible if you feel uncomfortable around me. Your feeling uncomfortable might be due to me actively working to make you uncomfortable, or it may just be you being paranoid.
How often do you evaluate your personal security around men?
Men evaluate their personal security around other men all the time. It's not sexist in any way if women do the same.
Have you ever been sexually harassed?
In online forums? All the time.
Know a geek girl? Ask her:
Have you ever been harassed with a rape threat because of a comment you made on line?
As a man, I face violent threats all the time online. This includes death threats.
Listen to the answers and then start looking at your own behavior. Why are you making it the women's problem rather than looking at your own behavior and beliefs?
Because most people understand that your "feels" may not actually be rooted in anything I did. If my wife "feels" neglected, it's not necessarily a fact that I neglect
her. If my wife "feels" unloved, it is not necessarily a fact that I do not love her. If a woman I talk to at work "feels" harassed, it is not necessarily a fact that I harassed her.
The problem is that you are trying to make men responsible for the way women feel, and "feels" are an entirely subjective thing. When you can objectively measure on a proper granular scale how "loved", "creepy", etc a man is being (regardless of how the woman perceives it), then we can talk about whether it's a problem or not - until then it's all subjective and I see no reason for the female point of view into feelings to be more legitimate than the males point of view.