JFC. Did I say the words "ready to die" ?? you insist on misquoting to make your points, intentionally noncomprehending...that or you're just stupid. the number of 80 and 90 year olds who are enjoying a healthy life rather than slowly crumbling under the weight of age is so seriously one sided you only further prove your ignorance.
the medical community, made of medical professionals have the highest rate of living will and end of life planning of any statistical group. its because they see this crap every day. they see the vast overwhelming numbers of people who DONT make these decisions beforehand, who DONT make any sort of plans, who dont think about what is coming. End of life care and planning is seriously lacking in most of hte world, and hte US especially. we dont like to think about it. we put it off.
Medical professionals dont avoid that thinking, that planning (as much), because they see what its effects are.
hell, they're fucking doctors, so they know exactly what they have to look forward to. Constant unfathomable pain from cancer. The slow undignified loss of the ability to control your own body. The loss of mind that patients suffer from and aren't even aware of themselves, but can see from the looks on the faces of their loved ones that something is wrong.
Yes, a blessed few avoid all that and simply go in their sleep.
That kind of end doesn't require any planning.
Almost everyone, if given the choice, would prefer to go that way.
But simply because there's a chance you may go that way, doesn't mean you shouldn't think about what you want to do in case of the alternative.
This is what realistic thinking on this looks like:
Do you want chemo and three months of life, or six weeks of life without the nausea and vomiting that the chemo causes?
Do you want high-risk open-heart surgery, with a fifteen-per-cent risk of dying during the operation, or would you rather continue as you are, with a fifty-per-cent chance you will be dead in two years?
Do you want a prostatectomy, which has a five-per-cent chance of impotence and incontinence, or radiation, with a three-per-cent chance of leaving a hole in your rectum, or would you rather “watch and wait,” with the chance that your cancer will never grow at all?
( http://theincidentaleconomist.... )
some people think (for various reasons, usually religious) that they have to hold on to the very end. no matter how bad it gets, no matter how much it costs (and remember friend: in this country your family has to pick up that tab, since we refuse to create a national system), no matter the suffering you or your family goes through. now if thats what you want, and youve thought it through and your family is on board (and it helps if you're rich), then power to you.
But at some point youre going to face those kind of decisions.
I just hope you show a higher intellectual ability by then than you are here.
Just remember: if we can show our pets the compassion to not force them to endure a living nightmare of misery, then surely we can show the same compassion to each other, to respect each others wishes. The only thing that's certain in life is death, and it's one of the most personal decisions you can make for yourself.