It could be my experiences only, and there are of course men who are the same way, but what we look for is this: The ability to confidentially and quickly put something up on the board, look it over, realized you fucked up (because almost no one gets things right the first time), correct it, look it over again, realized you fucked up (because very few get it right on the second try), and correct it. Be done with it, then describe all of the other things you were thinking you could do with it. It shows you aren't pressured by mistakes, you own up to problems, quickly fix them, and think of ways to better it later on. This is a quality I don't find in the women I've spoken with (with one exception). It seems like they don't understand shit happens, no one is perfect, and that's what you have a debugger for.
- $6100 after taxes, health insurance, and 401k contributions
- $1550/mo cost of living (50/day food ($15 meal average after tip), public transportation ($4 - $6/day), coffee, $8/pack cigarettes, etc.)
- $365 (cable/electric/gas/phone)
- $1530 rent
- $600/mo for loans/credit card pay offs
- $500/mo for car insurance / gas/ tickets (no note)
Leaves $1555 for the other stuff
I'm not hurting, but when you consider that I save around $800/month, and the average cost of a house in SF is $735k, it would take 15 years to have enough money for just the 20% down payment in the present, which by then would be probably only 12% of the total cost of the house. Also you have to consider my rent is really cheap as it is rent controlled. Apartment seekers here are faced with 1 bedroom rents of $2000 and up, and 2 bedrooms at $3k or more, if they can even find a place
125k is OK for me. It's not enough for a person who wants to live in the city and have a social life and doesn't want to live with 5 other people in a 1200 sqft place, and who has aspirations of buying a house here.