As far as I can tell, both of you are making mountains out of molehills.
That being said (yes, I'm going to help with that mountain, let me pull a car analogy), if I said I have no interest in driving, you would fault me as a liar when I mean I have no interest in driving a semi and would love to drive a Shelby Cobra, so I kinda gotta side with i kan read on this one. I don't think you would go ahead and defend my example as imprecise so much as lying (I clearly have interest in driving, just not one specific style of it). She clearly wants to play games, just not shooters. I'm not a huge fan of shooters, so it's perfectly reasonable to me to think of being a gamer without playing shooters.
This isn't a "knee jerk" reaction, it's a logical statement.