I ask myself this multiple times a day every day. Occam's razor, right? Still, if you are right, then many people on Slashdot are wrong because I agree with a number of regular posters on here.
Yeah, and also separating the important from stuff that annoys you but ultimately isn't a big deal. I'm annoyed when people use cell phones in restaurants. That's more my issue though, not something that really needs to change.
This is probably one of the two most relevant things you've mentioned. I probably do have some sort of problem. What's very interesting is that I've taught classes in the past and they love the way I teach. Why can I teach a class but not always help someone see something that I do? I suspect the answer is because I see things in a way others do not and therefore it requires a lengthy explanation. (I've been accused multiple times of taking too long to explain something.) People don't like lengthy. They want short. Is that my problem or theirs? Is this reply lengthy? Or is it thorough? Will anyone read it?
think we have a fair bit in common. I'm also prone to overly lengthy explanations. It's been a serious issue both at work, where senior managers lose interest in my otherwise useful ideas, and in relationships where sometimes simple is more emotionally satisfying to hear. It doesn't mean dumbed down - it's more about context and ensuring the message isn't lost in the details. I love rambling on about my designs and theories. Luckily I have a boss and colleagues who've helped me reign this in a bit.
It's probably because of where I was raised. If I didn't have that attitude growing up, I'd be dead. My neighborhood was not a nice place to be. Remember all those horrible things that happened in New Orleans during Katrina? Looting? Rioting? Murder? None of it surprised me. It was happening before Katrina. It still happens today. One of my many friends who still lives in New Orleans was beaten a couple of weeks ago by a neighbor. She will have months of facial reconstructive surgery. She lost part of her ear in the attack.
What's interesting is that despite the "world versus me" attitude, I also have a huge inner drive to make the world better. A lot of times, though, the world doesn't want to get better. That is frustrating. Very frustrating. Ironically, it feeds the "world versus me" attitude... which then fuels the drive to make the world better. It's a vicious cycle I have a hard time keeping in check. Living in New Orleans was killing me. Literally. It was eating me from the inside out because I could not change a city that bad. It was a good thing I left. It saved my life. I admire those that still live there and are able to do so without it hurting them too badly... although I always wonder how true that is?
Ouch, sorry to hear about your friend. Definitely a stand needs to be taken in some situations. I'm ashamed by the times I've out if cowardice sat by while disgusting things have happened. In some cases the right thing is to against the world - it's how change happens. I suppose it's about choosing battles. By bring mindful of perspective you can do the right thing without going mad tilting at windmills.
Something I think is important is to have that understanding of shades of grey, as you indeed do. None of us are saints. At a minimum, we're not going too badly if we try to avoid shitting on our fellow man. There will however be times when you have to put go atomic on someone, and if you have a good conscious, you'll always regret it even if it was necessary. I used to have a lot of anger issues when I was younger, and then became a recluse because it was scary to lose control that way. With a great deal of reflection and good friends I think I've a better balance than I've ever enjoyed in the past.
You seem a thoughtful decent person. I hate seeing good people ground down by this world.