So because one woman was able to rise to the top of her field, it instantly makes it impossible for any other women to be denied their due?
The problem is that just because there doesn't happen to be equality of outcome, doesn't mean that there is not equality of opportunity. And the constant whining and victimization just gives everyone a bad taste which can become self-fulfilling (in the negative sense).
I will use my wife as a good example, When we began our carreers, she made more than me for essentially equivalent jobs (engineering). She then proceeded to make a number of promotional moves and was just short of some significant management opportunities (hard work pays off). At this point we decided to have children, and she decided that she wanted to stay home. I emphasize that because I was actually more comfortable with her continued paycheck, but was willing to support her in her desire to be a stay-at-home mom.
Now, twelve years later, our kids are in juniior-high school and high school. My wife was feeling less needed at home, and wanted to return to work. In the last decade, my pay has increased significantly. However, due to her time out-of-work, and a change in industry due to an economicly-forced relocation, she has had to re-start at a much lower pay then what she was making when she left.
Does this mean my wife has been discriminated against? No, she is being paid based on her experience, or lack thereof, in the industry which is prevalent in our new home area. Is she societally disadvantaged because she was expected to stay home with the kids? Maybe, but still no; many of her peers in similar situations chose to keep working and now are managers with a consumate pay level. The pay-gap in this case is due entirely to life-decisions which she made (and she would be the first to tell you this).
Now, where we have seen discrimination was the senior-year summer in college, where we both volunteered to be "camp counselors" for a high-school level "future-engineers camp" at our college. We were involved in the review of applicants. The way that the university chose to "encourage diversity" was as follows:
1. Create two stacks of applications. Place all white-males in stack B.
2. Review applicants in stack A, choosing the best applicants.
3. Place pins on the state map to determine where the chosen applicants were from. Noticing that there were none selected from the Upper Peninsula (this is Michigan, by the way.)
4. Dig through stack B (white-males) to find the two applicants from the U.P. and put them in the accepted list.
5. Pat eachother on the back for achieving an un-biased result.
I was obviously disturbed by the process, despite my best attempts not to show it, because the admissions director commented to me as we were leaving, "See, we got some white males in there." Frankly, the comment just disturbed me more. I really was not concerned with the numbers of whatever groups. I was bothered that there was a group of students who were not even considered, based only on race/gender. What was wrong in the process was that there was no equality of opportunity.