Sounds to me like you're a victim of the attack that you claim Russians are target of, considering that I don't live in Russia, and haven't had any recent contact with anyone from the country (discounting occasionally reading some of their sites), and I have a very good understanding of the fact that most Ukrainians today live in a complete and tightly sealed propaganda construct. All it takes is to read some of the messages on Twitter as well as Ukrainian government's official statements to understand this simple fact.
Even here in the West, where we have always been a subject to fairly tight propaganda and self-sensorship of the media in interests of media owners, we have recently started to apply some serious critique to anything that comes from mouths of those who are pro-current Kiev government. Because they are so off the rails insane in their rhetoric, that no matter how our media would try to spin it, it wouldn't be believable to Western audience.
As a result, I can understand why your Russian relatives are more aware of the situation that you. You live in a propaganda bubble similar to that of propaganda bubble of wartime WW2 states in Europe, i.e. Great Britain, Germany and USSR. You are completely polarised, and pushed to be so invested in your view that you dismiss reality.
Such as the video noted earlier. To someone watching from the sidelines such as myself, the emotion on faces of those "liberated" people is obvious. It's fear. All encompassing, crippling fear. That's why you have reactions like woman going off the rocker to accuse everyone around her. That's what people who were deathly afraid of Stalin's commissars did in their villages during Holodomor in Russia, Ukraine and Kazakhstan for example.
To you, living in the complete propaganda bubble it was "happiness of being liberated". You are that disconnected from reality.