Just to keep things in perspective, I come from a family of overweight and obese people, and I've put a great deal of effort into developing healthier habits than them to stay healthy.
Same here; my point is that while for some people these habits come naturally, that's not the case for everyone. Yeah, in time I guess it will become second nature too, most days it already is. Junk food has gone from something I used to love, to something I'd rather avoid in favour of a healthier and well-prepared meal. But there are occasions where you still have to consciously keep track of your food intake, such as at barbecues, christmas parties at the family's, birthday parties, ...
Your claim that to lose 22lb in 3 months is absurd unless you truly don't do anything, all day, as that much food would provide you with a mere hundred calories a day and that is no attempt at weight loss, that's trying to starve yourself to death.
Well, probably got quite a few extra calories from the olive oil used to wok the chicken cubes. Most of my food intake during those 3 months was either spicy chicken or homemade curries. Also important perhaps if it wasn't clear already, 125g of rice is dry weight, prior to cooking; it's a simple quick-boil bag for 1-2 portions. And of course there was the occasional regular meal when invited somewhere (once every couple of weeks). I also relaxed a bit toward the end; some weekends I'd have like one large hamburger, or one kebab, just to have something different (when you're losing weight at 100g/day, that one hamburger in the weekend won't upset your schedule much and it breaks the monotonous chicken/rice cycle). And no, I wasn't trying to starve myself to death. In fact, I can survive just fine on such a limited diet, despite working out 2-3 times/week. I was never really hungry during that period, just a mildly grumbling stomach when lunch time approached. But no, I don't do much physical exercise during the day. As I said, on a good day work + commute already amount to 10.5-11 hours/day, time spent in a car or an office chair.
The fact that you'd make such a claim shows you've put literally no effort into finding out how to eat right and be healthy.
Don't jump to conclusions based on limited information. Of course I have; I got fed up with being overweight and out of shape for most of my life, so I decided to do something about it. I've been to a dietician for about a year (mostly so I'd have someone to answer to when I was falling behind on schedule but got some good tips from him too), I've adopted healthier eating habits, I work out when time permits. I never claimed the above diet was in any way healthy... I mean, be serious: no vegetables and no variation whatsoever. I just rolled into it by accident: bad shit happened that affected my appetite for a couple of weeks. Noticing I accidentally rolled into an unplanned weight loss period, I simply decided to keep riding that wave for a couple of months because it was working, and working faster than my regular approach. My normal approach to weight loss is a lot healthier: a diet of salads (no pasta, no or little dressing) combined with veggies and lean meat in the wok for the warm meals, and the occasional fish dish and of course some fruit to top it off. Unfortunately, that takes a bit more work as I need to go shopping more often for the fresh veggies and need to cook every day. When I get home in the evening, I don't always feel like cooking. Besides, what with the gym, my evening class and the one "social" night, I don't get home before 11pm during the week anyway. Yeah, I know, I could do my shopping during the day or on the way home, and get up a little earlier and cook in the morning. Sorry, my days are long enough as-is; right now my main problem is not weight loss, but sleep deprivation.
You sound a lot like my aunt did, before she decided to stop eating fast food and start hitting the gym once a week. She's in her late fifties now, and she's gone from weighing close to 300lbs her entire adult life to weighing under 200 now, all in the last 6-7 years. She took inspiration from my cousins, who took inspiration from my mother, who took it from my father, all of whom have lost a lot of weight since deciding to stop being unhealthy. My parents' exercise consists of walking the beach a few nights a week when the weather is nice enough, and in New England that's not even that often, but it was enough to shed the pounds they've always had.
Nice to know physical exercise works for you and your family; for me I found it does nothing. At least not for weight loss, and that's hitting the gym for 2-4 hours twice a week. Then again, better muscle tone, increased strength and stamina, more energy, feeling fit, that's enough benefit in itself to make it worthwhile, and after a while it does become fun.
Stop making excuses, you're not convincing anyone, I've personally known too many people like you who made excuses all their lives until they decided they were done being unhealthy. Obesity is a new epidemic, not something humans have been grappling with for centuries. If you'd stop making excuses and actually put the effort in and try to put together a balanced diet while cutting out all the crap you usually eat you'd realize obese is not a natural state for anyone.
I'm not making any excuses; I don't need to either; you probably misread me somewhere. I'm taking it slow by choice due to my other priorities not being compatible with the extra time/effort required for weight loss, but I'm getting there. When it fancies me, I lose some weight, and in between those periods I am maintaining it pretty well. I'm just pointing out that for some of us, maintaining a healthy weight is not as simple as some people seem to make it out to be. First of all, not everyone has the same metabolism (I know 3 people who can eat whatever they want, as much as they want, and still struggle to get their weight above the "underweight" category); second, not everyone has the time to cook a decent meal on a daily basis. If you combine that with an upbringing that ruins your "I've had enough" trigger permanently, you can see that what comes natural for some, takes a lot more effort and vigilance for others.