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Liora's Journal: Long-Awaited-Update 14

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Those of you that were here oh, two and a half years ago, that are still reading this, should know that I'm alive, that Shimmin and I went through counseling for a year over a year ago and that I thought he was better but he wasn't. So he was violent one last time on Saturday and something in me broke and I asked him to move out. He did so on Thursday. I'm calling this a temporary separation, but I really don't know what it is.

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  • I had to leave my 2nd wife because she tried to kill me. Do what you must to protect yourself. I'm very sorry to hear that it has come to this.
  • I hope that you are OK. It sounds like you are at a hard place right now, but that you did what was necessary for your own health and safety. That may not make it any easier right now, but remember it, and remind yourself.

    For now, just take things day by day, and do the things that you need to do, be the person you should be. That's what I concentrated on in my case (thought the reasons were somewhat different), and it helped a lot.

    And take good care of yourself. That's important. Best wishes for the f
    • by Liora (565268)
      I am OK, and I'm feeling more like myself than I have in a long time.
      • by johndiii (229824) *
        I remember that feeling strongly from just after my ex and I separated. I felt that I had lost track of the person that I should be, and was regaining that sense.
  • by Otter (3800)
    Meanwhile, while you've been gone, pretty much everyone split for Multiply...

    Anyway, that's too bad. Hope you guys can work something out, but stay safe in the meantime.

    • by subgeek (263292) *
      yeah, i'm usually on http://multiply.com/ [multiply.com] but i show up here once in a while.

      hey liora, way to go not taking crap you don't need to take. things will probably be tough for a while, but they'll get better. i don't mean he'll get better (maybe, maybe not), but rather that your life will get better. listen to your better judgement as best as you can. you'll get through this.
  • I'm trying to remember what you're talking about. I'm failing. Nevertheless: good luck! You'll need it.
  • I'm sorry to hear that, but am glad that you are alive and safe.
    • Thanks for pointing to this, SW.

      Pretty much going to echo what the others said, Liora, but it's important that you've done what you have.

      Good luck.
  • Not a lot to add, other than to wish you luck. Sounds like you probably made the right decision.
  • I got out of my bad relationship alive, too. He eventually quit tele-stalking me after about 18 months.

    It sounds like you made the right decision, definitely. Do what you can to prevent him from becoming one of those violent exes who cause so much trouble for the people they used to be with, and keep us posted. Take care, best wishes, and good luck!
  • by BWJones (18351) *
    Sorry to come to this late, but I was out of the country for the past week, but please, do recognize that your safety mentally and physically is paramount. *any* abuse is simply unacceptable and know that there is a community of support here on Slashdot for you.
  • The experience of a friend of mine leads me to advise you to file a police report on the violence. Soon. My friend waited about two months to report a domestic violence episode, and by that time neither the police nor the DA would take her report seriously. At that point she really needed their help, and she didn't get any.

    I know it may be hard to report someone you may still care deeply about, but please consider your own protection too.

    (Not sure this applies in your locality, of course. I'm in Oregon in t

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