I told all the family early on that I could, if I needed to, monitor all their internet activity from my own PC. A few ground rules were put in place, such as no trolling or abusing others, and that was it.
Fast forward to last week and my 13 year old admitted to downloading and watching the movie Saw with her friend. I played the fatherly game of "you shouldn't watch that at your age" and "is there anything you'd like to talk about?". The game was won by the choice words "oh c'mon Dad, it wasn't that bad".
They had their giggle. They had there kudos at school for watching something they shouldn't. Today, because of the school strikes, they are watching a chick flick because it's far more enjoyable for them rather than watching a horror movie. I know they wont download the rest of the series.
We're open about the internet. Mistakes have and will be made - that online bullying shit is very real. We like it this way.