My current work on userspace graphics enabling may require me to send an occasional quirks kernel patch, but I know I will spend at least a day dreading the potential toxic background radiation of interacting with the kernel community before I send anything
My wife and I did some extensive work to learn how to avoid expressing disrespect to each other.
One day I complained to her that she'd made me swim in a sea of toxic disrespectful judgments all day.
What I learned from the professionals was that using hyperbolic labels like "toxic" is also disrespectful. It's better to just stick to noting that you felt disrespected by a particular statement or statements until the message gets across - assuming the other side is working on learning to avoid disrespect. If they aren't, you identify the disrespect for them, notify them you aren't going to tolerate it any more, and then enforce boundaries to make sure you aren't subjected to it any more.
Another thing I learned is that people who are in an abusive relationship (including disrespect) tend to become abusers themselves.