Why not let women do what they want instead of trying to force them in to places that aren't necessarily their thing?
I see no "force" here. I see no objectification here. You are using hotbutton keywords that have no relevance.
If a certain group of people don't feel invited to your thing, it's entirely appropriate to re-write your invitation. If your infrastructure isn't supportive of a certain demographic, it's entirely appropriate to remediate that.
OTOH, if (at TFA suggests) you've got a demographic that's socialized to avoid conflict, and you've got a project that inherently involves conflict between different POV, you've got a problem.