Comment Re:Had a personal experience on this one (Score 4, Interesting) 646
I feel the need to respond to this as a person that would be viewed as 'real religious'. I have had to deal with a similar situation twice in the last few years, once in my own home.
My father-in-law had been fighting a rare form of cancer for 10 years, and finally succumbed to it in January, 2009, after going down hill very fast in the last week or so of his life. As a family we chose to have home hospice come in and take care of him (and us) for the last few days of his life. We could have chosen to fight for him, but we knew it would be pointless and only cause him pain for what little time he had left. Instead he died peacefully in his home, surrounded by his family.
Last year, my wife and I found out that she was pregnant with our second child. At 20 weeks we found out the baby had a rare and fatal form of dwarfism. We could have chosen to go to a hospital with a NICU, so that when our daughter came they'd be able to whisk her away, put her under a heat lamp, put her on a ventilator, and perhaps extend her life for a few hours or days. Again, she would die in the end and we would not have been able to hold her for the whole time. Instead we went to our local hospital, with doctors and nurses who knew what was going on. We were able to hold her and love her for the 15 minutes we had with her while she was still alive.
In both cases, we chose to NOT go through extraordinary means to 'save' our family members. As Christians, we know that both of them were safe and will be in Heaven waiting for us. We miss them both, of course. But as educated, intelligent people, we knew that we couldn't save them here on Earth. We understood the pain they would go through if we tried. We also understood that we would feel pain and loss ourselves once they were no longer here.
I believe that those who choose to do that to their own family have not thought things through, or are in such a state that they are unable to. Or they don't want to deal with the coming pain of loss. Or they are so afraid of death themselves that they can't understand deal with it even in others. Or any number of other things. I don't think this has anything to do with whether somebody is 'religious' or not. It is a human thing.
Please do not assume that all Christians think as your one family branch did. There is a whole spectrum of people in any group. We are all human, and flawed.