First, I'm really sorry you've had to deal with all the dickish responses to your post. You know that doing the long-distance thing will be hard, so you're making plans for ways to stay bonded during that time. Kudos to you and all the best.
As far as games are concerned, one thing I haven't seen suggested much are (virtual) board and card games. Especially if you both have iPads (though there's also varying levels of support for Android, PC, etc versions, depending on the game), there are a ton of good co-op and vs 2-player games that can be played remotely. My girlfriend is actually way more into these than I am, but here are a few off the top of my head:
- Hive (I love this one. It's chess-like but novel, and free on iOS and Android (the physical set is also a great travel game))
- Forbidden Island (here's a video of Wil Wheaton playing it with John Scalzi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DxG_ahmF1uM)
- Ticket to Ride (pretty sure this one's also available for PC/Mac)
- Ascension (iOS only, afaik)
- Dominion (also iOS only, I think)
- Magic (available on everything except Android, including consoles)
The nice thing about these games is, if you find one you like, you can hit up a site like boardgamegeek.com to find more like it.
Have fun!