Comment Bullies come in all sizes (Score 1) 698
Bullies are the flip side to good values. They come at you all sizes shapes and methods. All they want to do is challenge your values and tear you down to their level. You can't do this you're a girl. You can't do that you're a wimp. You cant do this because I can pick on you. I'm going to pick on you just for spite. I am going to stand between you and your goals just to make you miserable.
Your daughter will have to learn to stand up for herself more than she expected to at her age. Bullies like to prey on the apparently weak and defenseless - children losing a parent fit right into that category.
She has to know that being willing to speak up for herself, and being willing to ask for help when things are beyond her control are good skills to develop and use. Bullies can only be dealt with by standing up to them and forcing them to back down. Any type of appeasement action against a bully only encourages them.
Be careful of approved authority figures as well. They can act as bullies as well, just with tacit approval that people find difficult to challenge because they are the approved authority.
Your daughter will have to learn to stand up for herself more than she expected to at her age. Bullies like to prey on the apparently weak and defenseless - children losing a parent fit right into that category.
She has to know that being willing to speak up for herself, and being willing to ask for help when things are beyond her control are good skills to develop and use. Bullies can only be dealt with by standing up to them and forcing them to back down. Any type of appeasement action against a bully only encourages them.
Be careful of approved authority figures as well. They can act as bullies as well, just with tacit approval that people find difficult to challenge because they are the approved authority.