I don't think that was a money thing, rather it was an oversight of risk management. (...) Besides, where does this "blame the victim" attitude always come from?
Because it's pretty hard to criticize/discuss/improve someone's risk management without at the same time assigning part of the blame to them. I mean if I was entirely without fault that means I did nothing wrong which means I don't have to change my ways, yet here you are arguing I should take greater precautions which means I did do something stupid which means it's partly my own fault right? It's pretty hard to say that you could and should avoid danger, yet it doesn't matter if you sought and exposed yourself to danger instead.
If we forget all about rapists and imagine I was struck by lightning, you'd probably say it was a freak accident. If you heard I went to the highest vantage point nearby with my kite during a thunderstorm, you'd probably call me pretty damn stupid and say I did a great job of bringing lightning down on myself. Are you really not going to ridicule me if I fall for a 419 scam with a Nigerian prince? That one involves being exploited by another person too, are you sure you won't put any responsibility on my shoulders?
I know I'd blame myself if I left my laptop visible in the car and it got broken into, not because it broken into as such - that happens - but because I made it so much more likely it was my car getting broken into. It doesn't mean I deserved it, it's still 100% the thief's fault for stealing it but somehow my inner statistician is screaming something about conditional probability. And I don't choose the risk factors, the thief decides that a visible laptop makes it interesting. The rapists decide if mini skirts is a risk factor, not the potential victims.
No, it's not just but it's about not becoming the victim in an unjust world. And even if the perpetrator is caught and punished so justice is served it doesn't restore my health or life or trauma that another person is now in prison. I don't want any shit like that to happen to me nor anyone I care about, so I don't think I can help sending out mixed messages saying both "it's not your fault" yet "try harder not to become a victim". If you got a means that doesn't rub anyone the wrong way, I'd love to hear it.