No I'm saying exactly what I said. In a nutshell: "But once the concept is understood, the metaphor gets in the way and can only mislead or clutter."
BTW, I notice that you said there's nothing wrong with gentle gradients and animation. Well there's more animation in iOS 7+ than iOS 6-
And what are the gradients for? If it's just a subtle effect for a background that makes an app look pettier, OK, but when it's used as a pseudo 3D effect, it's likely to clash with the proper 3D transform based layer animation. Flip a screen with pseudo raised bits and shadows, and it becomes clear it's just a sham.
You also state that you hate the vast amount of white. But you're looking at larger expanses of white when looking at a website such as slashdot classic, or a word processor file. If it's too bright, turn down the brightness!
Oh, and if you're confused by the lack of outlines on buttons, there's an accessibility option to add them.