Comment Re:nature will breed it out (Score 1) 950
There comes a point where this get old. I went through my phase in my late teens with this, and realized I hated being in any kind of relationship like that. I don't find enjoyment in getting laid if there's no emotion in it.
Well, you pretty much have to play the game to attract them in the first place...we're speaking in generalities here of course, but you have to come off a certain way for the majority of women to notice and be interested in you.
Once you get past this barrier....and decide you want an emotional relationship with this woman, you can let down the guards a little and be more of yourself.
But still...in the end, women, even in long term emotional relationships, in general, want a strong, assertive male presence. It seems to be in the DNA really.
If you become all wishy washy and can be walked over, often times a good long term relationship can start to fail from her end, if she see's you as less of a decisive male.
I'm just saying the two things are not mutually competitive. It takes a bit of playing the game to land one....and if it is a keeper, sure, have a deeper emotional relationship, be more of yourself and all....but don't quit being the man in the basic ways that attracted her to you in the first place.
And sure...be equal in the relationship, but as a male...you need to pretty much always be just at least a tad more of the equal than her.
I think, personally (and again generalities here) that it is mighty hard to undo centuries of evolution and things burned into male/female DNA even though society has tried to make these recent (historically speaking) changes.