Man here (from birth)... I don't see how selfishness is an inherently male trait. I would never think taking someone else's food was OK as long as I replaced it. Obviously, at the moment there's a problem, and fixing problems you created is clearly inferior to not causing them in the first place. I would not want someone who wasted time and professional reputation, by constantly fixing the problems they caused, on my team.
What I see with men-- including myself, of course-- is that we DO want to fix problems, and save the discussion for later. "Lessons learned", "post-mortem meeting", etc. Women don't seem to like that. For some reason, they want to address the collateral issues at the same time, or even defer the solution in order to perform in-depth problem analysis. This seeming lack or urgency is frustrating to me, personally.
It is hilarious that one day, we can have an article lamenting the lack of women in IT-related undergraduate majors, then the next have an article wondering why there aren't more women working in IT.
Maybe we should stop frickin' worrying about how many women are in IT... unless we want to start worrying about the lack of men in nursing, veterinary, and grade school education.
Logic says we're more likely to be alive tomorrow than dead.
If some of your thoughtful choices include not participating in needlessly dangerous activities or unhealthy behavior, the odds move even more in your favor.
stop using the stupid, "Love the sinner, hate the sin"
What's stupid about it? You can demand tolerance, but not acceptance.
It is easier to change the specification to fit the program than vice versa.