You can call any sort of coercion, "rape", but as I see it, the coerced partner had a choice. True rape has no choice. That's my view on the matter.
Just to be perfectly clear, "You will have sex with me, or I will fire you," isn't rape, since the person has the choice to lose their job. Or teenager with poor self esteem being told, "You will have sex with me, or you'll be ostracized." Lovely. Hell, apparently "You will have sex with me, or I will beat you," isn't rape, since the victim has a choice.
This is exactly the problem. "Sure, I emotionally abuse my girlfriend and coerce her into have sex with me. But I'm not 'raping' her, so it's okay! My good friend khallow tells me it's even legal!"
. I don't mind that you chose to ostracize the "enablers". I just wish you'd do it somewhere else, perhaps after you think about your beliefs and human nature for a while.
I'm sure you do wish that. You simultaneously believe "it's okay to coerce people into unwanted sex" and "I'm against rape." My pointing must be causing you a great deal of distressing cognitive dissonance. That's why I'm not going to go away and let you return to your comfortable lies. Do you even read what you wrote? I genuinely believe that you are enabling rapists, to go somewhere else would be to let you continue to do so. Part of fighting the problem is speaking out, even if it makes people uncomfortable. Especially if it makes people uncomfortable.
"Right-thinking," huh? Do you mean like the "right-thinkers" who banded together to convince people that it was right to view black people are human beings, equal in dignity and rights to white people? Like the "right-thinkers" who banded together to convince people that women were equal in dignity and rights to men? Like the right-thinkers who are banding together today to argue that homosexuals are equal in dignity and rights to heterosexuals? Like the right-thinkers banding together to argue that everyone, American or not, is owed due process and a day in court. If that's what you mean, yeah, I'm a right-thinker, and damn proud of it. I'm arguing that coercing sex is rape and that arguing semantics gives cover to people who coerce sex. I'm arguing that telling a coerced sex victim that it's not "true rape," and that it's legal puts the blame on the victim and is sickening.