"1) The US meddles in other countries affairs in ways that kill lots of people and THAT is why some people hate us, not because of our alleged freedom."
If that is true then why were they so upset at the Dutch? The Dutch don't mettle in foreign affairs so much, yet a majority of worldwide Muslims called for deaths of some Dutch cartoonists. Do they hate the Dutch for their freedom, but hate us for other reasons?
I think they hate our freedom, and we hate their oppression. Luckily we've got bigger bombs so our hatred is more successfully implemented in policy. I'm also willing to defend my love of freedom and my hatred of their oppression, if you disagree with my assessment that my culture is better than theirs, even though neither is perfect. Maybe it would serve our interests to drop fewer bombs, or maybe not, but I don't think Muslim outrage would be substantially different for it. I do, really, think they hate us for our freedom.
There is a minority of Muslims today with worldviews that are compatible with modernity. I hope that minority sways the minds of the overall Muslim community over the next few hundred years in the way that a minority of Christians swayed the Christian community over the last few hundred years. It'll be hard to get through those years without a lot of deaths of people who just cannot abide things like apostasy, speech, secularism and equality.