Comment Re:There's a middle path (Score 1) 394
The way I see it, is time is the most precious asset I have. I really don't care to spend too much of it going to low-key events from someone I barely know. That's not to say I don't want to socialize with a wide-range of people, but an event every once in a while that I do get wind of is more than enough to keep a good flow of new faces to meet.
Facebook breeds a strong fear of missing out, when in reality if I get invited to 1 out of 1000 events going on in my city, its far more than enough to keep my social calendar reasonably full. I don't care that I missed event X, even if I think it's far better than event Y that I did stumble upon because I don't *know* it was better and there's no sense in lamenting over such trifles.
It's interesting to me that you see email as too formal for some invitations. Email is where we go for spam, mass mailings, and heads-up about events. Everyone I know has email. I cannot think of a single person that does not. About half the people I know don't have or never use Facebook. Email is where I send out invitations because it works best.
Perhaps millenials all use Facebook and none of them use email for such things, and generations shift in how they do things. In my generation, we all use email for organizing things (with attached calendar items when it makes sense). For context, I'm in the generation where I used to write letters to girls across the pond because phone calls were expensive and not everyone had email.
I guess what I am saying, if someone cares about me, they know how to contact me. If I get passed over, it's really not a big deal at all. Either a) they didn't want me there enough to put in that kind of (pretty low-bar) thought or b) the Fates screwed me, oh well, or c) my "friend" dislikes the fact I don't use Facebook and didn't invite me to spite me; fuck 'em.