I don't find the supporters of 'straight only' marriage hypocritical, they admit they want special rights. I find them misguided in what they are trying to accomplish though, to force their moral values onto others through something that doesn't stop a lifestyle, i.e. two people living together and having sex.
Interesting you used the word 'hate'. I reread the above and don't understand why you would use that word except for the 'hypocrites' line. Probably should have worded that one phrase a little better (i.e. arguments are hypocritical, not people). I didn't say it anywhere, about hating anyone, meant to state an opinion of what I feel their argument is (i.e. hypocritical).
Maybe if more people used reason instead of emotion, this issue could get resolved. Instead, those that disagree are labeled 'haters' and 'homophobes', vile words that denigrate and divide. Terms that are divisive are often used by someone when they run out of valid points to make.
As for marriage-like benefits not being extended, they already are. Many companies now offer 'civil union' or 'domestic partner' benefits. None of those state that a couple have to be romantically involved. In fact, there is *NOTHING* in marriage benefits that say people have to be paired romantically. There have been many marriages of convenience that were very legal. Those 'domestic partner'-like benefits were extended by people putting pressure on specific items, not trying to force their moral beliefs or attacking people as haters. They used their wallets to go elsewhere if they could.
Since romance,sex, and love have nothing to do with whether or not a couple are recognized as married by the government, the benefits attached to the concept should also not be linked to those things. The governments of the US has a lot of silly laws about marriage. In Maine, a marriage between second cousins is allowed as long as they attend genetic counseling, regardless whether or not they are interested or capable of having children. In Tennessee, a 14 year old can get married if there is a court order.
Eliminate the government concept of marriage and reduce it to what the government really should be helping with .. contract law. Divorce laws should be applicable to any couple (or more) who have willingly entered into financial interdependence. Child support and visitation laws already apply without a marriage contract.
If someone wants to get married .. go right ahead. Have the ceremony you dreamed about in front of your friends and relatives. Have a religious figure denote you as officially married. Even include signing a legal document stating you want to be recognized as a financially interdependent couple in front of everyone.
Or don't have the ceremony, and just go to the courthouse.
See .. nothing has changed. People can still do whatever they want. The only difference is the government has non-gender, relationship neutral rules surrounding what that is. Rules like living together and being financially interdependent.
And all the hate speech fostered by the gay-marriage and straight marriage activists can finally go away.