I don't see how my saying that a man should support his child means that I think total absolutes about women getting everything they want with no accountability. I'm honestly trying to find the words to say to this, because I'd said I wasn't going to say anything else (I've raped this topic comments-wise today), so I want to make everything clear in these "final words". Or what I HOPE are final...
Never once have I said anything about women getting everything and men getting nothing, but that doesn't seem to matter; to some men, it seems that anytime someone brings up a disadvantage in the 'Woman's World', they jump up and start pointing fingers, saying "we have it bad, too!" What's funny is that while I have a small feminist side, I see the bullshit that goes on on my side of the court. I could give examples, but I've been too wordy already. Fact is, I try my best to be a reasonable, well-rounded and deep-thinking individual. I can shoot off the mouth and be opinionated, but if no one did that, there wouldn't be anything interesting on the internet.
We DO have a little more responsibility. And in a lot of cases, that's what fucks us up the ass without the benny of a reach-around. We're damned if we do, damned if we don't. If you're a pregnant teenager, some schools will try to bar you from attending but let the baby-daddy (gah, hate using that, but it seems right here, dunno why) roam the halls without repercussion. If we choose to abort when the man doesn't want us to, we're baby-killing bitches. If we choose to keep the baby, we're money-hungry bitches. If we choose to not have sex on the first or second date, we're labelled prudes. If we DO have sex on the first or second date, we're sluts. We do have options, and we DON'T have options, simply because we can be vilified for any one of them. Saying this, I'm not trying to play the tearful, "WOE IS ME, I'M A WOMAN!" card, it is what it is. How do we win? Give the man the decision entirely? Compromise, when it's already too hot to touch? What about the families on both sides, do they have a say? I DO side with women on this issue a little more, yes, because the products of both abortion and pregnancy will stay with her forever. I know the latter well; I had to have a c-section, because my son was born at 11.6 pounds, no lie. I've never recovered from it, even when I joined a gym and went through serious fitness and dieting routines. I'd never take it back, however. All this doesn't mean the man doesn't get a say in what happens, but it IS hard to say how it's finalized, as yes, the woman is the most affected. Sorry... you might not like it as a man, but it's just fact. Sometimes I don't like it either, because I'm a person who wants to be completely impartial, even in things like this. But I always keep coming back to the "who's affected the most by this?" point.
The best solution is what a lot of men (and some women) do not want to hear: this can allllll be avoided in NOT having sex with someone on the first, second or even third date. This goes for both sexes. If Jane and Joe have sex on the first date and Jane gets pregnant, neither one of them can bitch about the decisions being made on either side, whether or not the woman's insisting on it being her way. If Jane got to know Joe, she'd learn he didn't want kids and would want an abortion be done and nothing but. If Joe got to know Jane, he'd learn that she didn't want an abortion, even if it was with some guy she just met. Would this seriously kill anyone? I'm not talking "Wait for marriage," crap, just KNOW the person you're going to sleep with before you sleep with them. Neither side can feign ignorance. And it doesn't even have to be a two-hour lecture on 'Why Joe Doesn't Want Kids: Part VII, Money'... just, "Not without a condom--too young for kids *wink*" or the like.
It's not hard. In the end, it's 50/50, because someone else isn't responsible for another person, no matter how deceitful the man or woman may be. If a man has sex (especially unprotected sex, taking her word that she's on the pill) then they have to understand that not even birth control is 100%, and she may not be lying but forgot to take the pill two days before and poof, the statistics go up in pregnancy's favor. Or maybe she IS lying. It happens--just not in the proliferation or as exponentially as the guys here are saying. If it's happened once to one guy, it happens all the time, or in 90% of pregnancy cases? I thought this site was more aimed at scientific observation, not making facts out of a few personal experiences...
If you've read my original post/comment to this article, you'd find that I WANT this option on the table, because it gives the man an edge and gives him a level of personal responsibility, instead of relying on the woman solely. I myself always had to have a combo of condoms and contraceptive foam, because I had awful, mentally-crippling reactions to birth control (seriously--three days after starting the regimen, I'd cry every time I heard the pill's timer go off, constant insomnia, depression, etc.). If I were back to being a college-aged girl, wanting sex without the kid and this sort of option was out there? Betcher ass I'd go for it. And if I make make a superficial statement? A guy that would do that would attract a LOT of girls, almost in the same way as a man buying tampons for his wife/girlfriend. It means you're willing to take part, take care and share sexual responsibility. I don't know what kinds of girls half the guys here are talking about, but I'd only say that they should pay more attention to the female population. Someone like me would find it hawt. That's with an A-W, hawt.
So there, my last statement, and I'd state it again if I had to... if I don't reply, it's only because I've done this one too many times for my tastes. I'm not going to argue anymore, I'm not going to keep defending my opinions/views/personal facts, it is what it is.