Why would the alpha males want to run around banging every homely chick who asks? So those women will be forced to start looking at alternatives unless they want to be celibate.
Except that does not seem to ever happen. Through some genetic science we know with absolute certainty that only about 20% (it varied around this number quite a bit) of men historically got to procreate throughout all of prehistory before monogamist civilization sprang up compared to 85%+ percent of women which is generally considered to be just about every woman who survived the viruses/dangers of life back then. People tend to not look at animals to understand themselves enough, but really they are not only compatible they are identicle. Men looking for attractiveness in women is just an attribute of a monogamous society, they will have any woman who asks. No monkey, no rhino, no mammal in the history of mammals have ever turned down a woman; excluding the last few thousand years of monogamous society. It does not matter what mammalian society you are studying, the top 5-30% of the studs service all the females; Women are not traditionally graded and measured against eachother in that way; As each and every one already has the most important attribute of being able to produce babies.
It's not unrelated, but it is debatable how it affects things. My contention is that divorce rates were 0% (or very low, after that) because women in previous centuries and generations were second-class citizens and couldn't leave bad marriages (and the same also went for men, but to a lesser degree; society frowned so much on divorce that it just wasn't done). The rates are much higher now because women have equal rights, and are able to have their own careers, so they don't need men to be meal tickets any more, so people don't stay in unhappy marriages like they used to. All this points to the idea that monogamy and life-long marriages are simply a bad and unworkable idea for most people. In fact, in centuries past, love wasn't even a factor in marriages, only convenience and politics.
I would agree with at least most of that. As I stated from the very beginning Marriage is obviously the repression of woman's natural inclination to procreate with as many alpha males as possible.
I disagree. Some people are luckier than others and have better or bigger families. I know lots of people whose families don't give a shit about them. Tribes don't have this problem so much.
I think you are picking and choosing your examples here. Not only is a modern example not useful as marriage has already mostly fallen apart, but not all tribes are the oculist paradise you are implying. Like I already said, some outright killed their elders when they got too old to be useful. And I doubt the 40 year old woman (isn't that suppose to be like the height of their sexual lives) got much action when competing with 20 year olds for the tiny fraction of alpha males. And marriage is not just a good way to encourage growth and procreation. It is also an excellent way to enforce the equality that is so important to large ant like societies. To sustain a large ant like society we need ways to turn individuals into cogs, I would hazard that marriage does this. Left to their own devices, women with fight over the 25% of alpha men, and leave a huge number of dispossess. But unlike tribal living large ant like societies do not have a mechanism to handle this. Ants developed sexual reproductive methods that just allowed 100% of the society to be comprised of females, we are stuck with around 50/50 and so large societies need institutions like marriage.
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