Only a little while after Gene Roddenberry passed, I attended the inaugural showing of Laserium's (exquisite) "The Wall" at Griffith Observatory in LA. Ms. Barrett-Roddenberry was also in attendance. After the show, I remained in my seat, because I wanted to let the show percolate a bit in my head before departing. As I sat there, Ms. Barrett-Roddenberry was approaching my aisle seat. She was alone, and her face showed the considerable strain of losing her life-long mate. (I learned later that she was one of a considerable number of folks associated with the Star-Trek franchise that do not travel with an entourage, but just do their normal business in public just like anyone else, a choice I find refreshing.)
Everyone still in the hall was ignoring her, which might or might not have been appropriate. I'll never know. But I didn't ignore her. I stood up and said, "Ms. Roddenberry, you don't know me, but I was saddened by your husband's passing. I'm so sorry for your loss."
With a slight smile, she replied, "Oh, thank you so much. It's been very hard to lose him, but many people have let me know how special he was to them, just as he was to me. That's helped a bit."
With that, she bade me good evening, and went out of the hall. As I already mentioned, we didn't know one another, so I had no intention engaging her in a long, intrusive conversation. I just wanted her to know that I shared her loss and pain, even just a little bit.
There's nothing earthshaking about this minor incident, except that many Hollywood stars would have either ignored me or been ungracious in the extreme. Instead, Ms. Barret-Roddenberry took my greeting for what it was, and replied graciously. Oh, sure, she was an actress, so the whole thing could have been "an act", but so what? If she chose to "act graciously", that, in itself, is an act of grace.
I choose to believe that Majel Barrett-Roddenberry was a lovely, very-talented, and gracious woman. I'm betting that those who knew her well would agree. May she rest in peace.