If you think the taxes are primarily going to support infrastructure, you're wrong. The vast majority of federal money goes to the military and social programs, the former of which is loved by Republicans as well as many rich Democrats (that are in on the military industrial complex) and the latter of which is overwhelmingly mandated by the Democrats.
The Republicans don't know how to balance budgets, but neither do the Democrats. Again, pick NYS as a whole or pick any city in NYS - they're all run by Democrats and they're all severely in the hole. The problem is too much spending all around.
The red states can support themselves when they aren't busy dealing with mandates imposed by the blue states. Here in NY, the state mandates determine 95%+ of local budgets by doing things like passing the cost of Medicaid onto the county governments (which is why NY has a high income tax, property tax, and sales tax, all of which remain within the state and not passed on to the federal government, not to mention plenty of high use taxes like the Thruway tolls).
What's that? You think we should mandate social spending like Universal Heathcare? So you're opposed to people actually having the freedom to choose for themselves and don't want to give them the opportunity to NOT pay for it? In red areas, even though they collect from such programs, most people don't want them. Then you get to whack them with the stick for telling them that they aren't supporting themselves. Nothing like pushing learned helplessness on people and depriving them of their desire to support themselves. I'm sure you have everything in your life running perfectly as you tell everyone else how they have to run their life, right?
Economic liberty is just as important as social liberty and the Democrats are just as authoritarian and tyrannical as the Republicans, just over different issues.