sudo
/System/Library/CoreServices/RemoteManagement/ARDAgent.app/Contents/Resources/kickstart -activate -configure -access -on -clientopts -setvnclegacy -vnclegacy yes -clientopts -setvncpw -vncpw VNC-PASSWORD -restart -agent -privs -all ssh -R 5901:127.0.0.1:5900 -R 2201:127.0.0.1:22 help@MY-IP-ADDRESS-OR-DNS
Next I PHONE the person and get them to start up "Terminal" and copy/paste the commands above into the Terminal window. I also tell them what to type into the Terminal window when it asks for the "help" account's password.
Now I can start up my VNC client and connect via port 5901
The Borland license was great!... and in plain english too!
http://mobile.osnews.com/story.php/22342/Borland-in-the-1980s-Treat-Software-Just-Like-a-Book/
No-Nonsense License Statement
This software is protected by both United States copyright law and international copyright treaty provisions. Therefore, you must treat this software just like a book, except that you may copy it onto a computer to be used and you may make archival copies of the software for the sole purpose of backing-up our software and protecting your investment from loss.
By saying "just like a book," Borland means, for example, that this software may be used by any number of people, and may be freely moved from one computer location to another, so long as there is no possibility of it being used at one location while it's being used at another or on a computer network by more than one user at one location. Just like a book can't be read by two different people in two different places at the same time, neither can the software be used by two different people in two different places at the same time. (Unless, of course, Borland's copyright has been violated or the use is on a computer network by up to the number of users authorized by additional Borland licenses as explained below.)
Work is the crab grass in the lawn of life. -- Schulz