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It appears that PL/I (and its dialects) is, or will be, the most widely used higher level language for systems programming. -- J. Sammet
I'm really busy (Score:5, Insightful)
Less bloat gives more trust (Score:5, Insightful)
There's a lesson to be learned here. Less bloat, more trust!
Insomnia (Score:5, Insightful)
Work-Life Balance (Score:5, Insightful)
The eight hour day / 40 hour week was one of the Labour movements' greatest victories, but this has been largely eroded in modern professional occupations. Many people work crazy hours. There is a whole culture that working yourself and your family into the ground is a good thing.
However some enlightened governments have strategies to deal with this- the issue of work/life balance has been big recently- check http://www.dol.govt.nz/worklife/index.asp or
http://www.dti.gov.uk/work-lifebalance/what.html
Whatever happened to the 60's notion that technology would have us working less?
Suicide Notes (Score:5, Insightful)
Re:Less bloat gives more trust (Score:2, Insightful)
but with that being said, does that mean I trust microsoft now that their search engine looks almost exactly [msn.com] like google's?
Re:Work-Life Balance (Score:3, Insightful)
Employers want full time employees, unemployment is strongly discouraged, we want more and better stuff, and we have a lot more rich people to carry around.
Re:A 199 Byte static webpage.... (Score:5, Insightful)
we're all tired (Score:5, Insightful)
I'm tired because I just woke up after 12 hours of sleep.
Spam? (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:Work-Life Balance (Score:1, Insightful)
Where have you been? All the unemployed walking the streets asking for change have lost jobs (or never had them) because the low paying jobs have all but been eliminated buy machines. The problem is: not everyone can be smart and rich; someone has to fill the low end jobs. To bad the jobs are all gone.
Anyway, that's what I'm tired of.
tired (Score:5, Insightful)
1. Being stuck in a job - a LOT more people than they care to admit are into jobs they don't really like. Jobs that are no longer challenging. Or exciting. Jobs that are going nowhere. This is the primary reason for being tired, because the entire life, one day at time, is structured around the job - from sleep cycles, to time to be spent with family, take to wake up, etc. And it is very tiring and taxing, when this very job, isn't what one would really want to do.
2. Relationship - the less said, the better. Not every relation is pleasant. And by relationship, I don't just mean a boy/girl relationship. Relationship with the wife. with the kids. people at work. Neighbours. Between two nations. And it's so funny because though we all say "man is a social animal", this is precisely what we aren't taught - how to socialize, or how to maintain in a relationship. Or just be in a relationship. being tolerant. We are not taught that, but of course a whole load of algebra and trignometry, that finds no direct use in most lives.
Just these two are so crucial factors in defining the happiness and well being of each person.
For all weapons of mass destruction there may or may not be in the world, whether the world is safe or not, masses are mostly unhappy and hence "tired". And hence they find or try to find outlets to get of this tiredness. Whatever it may be.
Whoaa.. I've surprised myself I think!
Re:Work-Life Balance (Score:5, Insightful)
Depends. Are you talking about the thousands of people who get fired for no reason? They're working less.
The people who work 70 hour days trying to start their own businesses so they can afford food and light and the people who are doing four people's job because more layoffs were just announced are working more.
Management is moving on to the salad course during the air-conditioned bonus announcement party. They're working less.
The customers are trying to figure out the voice mail menu. They're working more.
It would be nice if people could work less. It would be even nicer if work were pleasant instead of a giant fucking bitch-gripe grab the money contest.
Re:Work-Life Balance (Score:2, Insightful)
Re:Less bloat gives more trust (Score:2, Insightful)
Re:Why? (Score:5, Insightful)
A friend of mine said yesterday that he woke up at 4.30 and couldn't get back to sleep. I simply replied "As a parent, I can only say 'Screw you'."
I have four month old twins.
I bike to work, 12 miles every day.
I have not had to tell anyone to screw themselves.
I do get tired on occation, and I do feel down every now and then... but I doubt telling people to screw themselves would make me feel any better.
Try looking at the good things, concentrating on the bad stuff will only serve to make you bitter.
Besides, given that your friend had a different basis of comparison, his lack of sleep might have been a major issue for him. Stuff like this is always subjective, and trying to compare who has it harder is ofter rather pointless.
can we /. this? (Score:2, Insightful)
Re:I'm really busy (Score:5, Insightful)
However, the most often use of LJ I see is this. People bitch about how shitty their lives are, or they bitch and blame others about shitty daily happenings in their lives. They also obfuscate names of people and places very poorly so anyone who knows them can figure it out. Lastly they voice the opinions they don't have the balls to voice during the day to real people, because they don't hold water. They seek encouragement and sympathy from people around the world to make them feel better. Because no matter what your problem is, there is someone on the Internet who will tell you how right you are in order to make you feel not alone. And that one person telling you how right you are validates your existence despite your actual complete wrong-ness.
The other side effect of Live Journal that makes it really bad is this. People go around reading the Live Journals of others and form sort of this behind the back society. They never say something to a person in real life anything that was said in LJ. But they keep it in mind. No longer is it necessary to gossip about people like old maids. Just go around reading LJs of everyone you know and you can get the real deal.
I just feel that this whole culture surrounding things like Live Journal is so shallow and meaningless. I feel filthy every time someone links me to LJ and I go look at it. The same filth you feel when you accidentally look at the magazines in the checkout aisle. Just get it off me.
Re:Er. what's the point ? (Score:5, Insightful)
If you're drained of energy with no explaination, then sure, go see a doctor, but if you know why you're tired in spite of a good 6 to 9 hours of sleep each day, then a doctor may not be the right answer.
Assume you are getting enough sleep, and you are otherwise perfectly healthy. A stressful environment can really sap your strength. Pills and even counseling may make you appear to be more content, but the underlying problem may not be fully addressed- only masked.
Let's say you're struggling at work in an unexpectedly deadend job. At the time, you thought it was a promotion, but instead it was just a latteral move with slightly better pay that made moving any further up the ladder of success impossible. If you make any waves, they'll probably realize they can do nicely without you.
You make enough money to afford your family's present standard of living and there is no way for you to find another job at your current level of income. Your employer is unsympathetic and expects you to do your job to their satisfaction or be replaced by two lower payed employees. To them, you are not indespensable.
Your wife is having second thoughts because married life just isn't what she was expecting, and she refuses to have any discussions about it. She's itching for any excuse, and she's probably a bit smarter than you, and a hell of a lot more vendictive. She also has access to all your possessions including your bank account.
Your kids are doing fine, but you have no time for them because you are already putting in so many hours at the office. These days, they barely know you, but at least you get to see them most every day.
If you let your job fail, you lose your income, your wife will definitely leave you, and you'll probably end up losing your home, most of your posessions, what little access you have to your kids, and of course, any money in your next job will be going to child and spousal support, thus making your existence a living hell.
If you try to get your wife to help you, she'll just call you a wimp, chastise you, threaten to leave you, take the kids, and she'll find some way to have her attourney legally harass you until your employer fires you...
Hmmm... No way out unless you want to skip town and change your identity... But they'd probably find you anyway. It's a tough spot.
You come home each night, you eat well, you find time to excercise, and you get more than enough sleep. You're otherwise healthy, but you're tired. The good doctor isn't going to make it all better. In fact, getting you dependent upon some kind of medication may just screw your life up even more.
Re:why i'm tired (Score:4, Insightful)
Re:Less bloat gives more trust (Score:2, Insightful)
... would've worked as well.
Re:Why? (Score:2, Insightful)
And some infants take a lot more support than others: I've met some beautiful meatloafs you couldn't disturb from their naps with a two-by-four, and other delightful infants of pure evil who'd wake up shrieking from Brownian motion bouncing air molecules off their faces, preferably just when you finally got your own eyes closed.
Re:I'm tired (Score:5, Insightful)
Of people using their "I'm trapped in my job/life because $BOGUS_REASON"
I'm in my thirties. I graduated with a 80ish average in high school. I dunno what that even hits on the GPA-o-meter.
I've never held a job for more than 30ish months.
I never went to college.
I make $150K a year as a sofware development consultant.
The companies are not tossing your resume because it lacks a degree.
They are tossing it because you haven't expressed anything to them that they want.
Do yourself a favor. Learn to sell. Get a partime job as a salesman in a commission based job--even grow into it fulltime. You will certainly make better money than slave. Go to the library. Read Books by Zig Zigler, Dale Carnegie and the like. Once you are able to sell crap TVs and "Extended Warranties" and make 3-5K a month, you are ready to Get a real job without a Degree.
At 35, a degree is a useless peice of paper that will not get you a job. You are old enough to get there on your merits.
If a 35 year old came to me with only his newly minted degree as his sole reason for being hired, I'd show em the door faster than Anna Nicole Smith wolfs down a cheeseburger.
Re:Agreed, insomnia is not a joke (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:Agreed, insomnia is not a joke (Score:1, Insightful)
It took several sessions with a meditation guru, in a class with several others, before I noticed my mind slow down. No more 'voices'. No, I can typically sleep much better, on fewer hours of sleep, and wake up better. I still like to sleep in till the last minute, skip breakfast, hop in the car and race to work, but that's another probem.
I meditate when I need to; I should be doing more, but I'm too lazy to do so.
I was on anti-depressants for a while, and what that did was screw up my mind, in that I could not remember things nor think clearly or creatively. I went off the medication after about a year and a half of being on it, and I feel much better. It took several months, but I can think again, think clearer, and am getting back my creativity.
My number one reason for being tired (Score:5, Insightful)
Meetings are taking forever because these damn things keep going off. My programming staff is becoming mutinous. The idea behind these phones is that he wants people calling in to be able to get a hold of people quickly, but it's backfired because I've had to let most of my staff work from home three days a week so they can get stuff done. Productivity is down; the boss wants to hire more programmers, and I'm trying to convince him to hire a receptionist instead.
Seriously, getting started is the hardest part of any task. If you are constantly interrupted, you're constantly revisiting the most difficult phases of any task. Even if you are doing things that are easy it takes a toll. Getting buckled down to do something hard is nearly impossible.
Conversely, even hard things are easy, if you can get started and stick with them.
Re:why i'm tired (Score:4, Insightful)
And yes, USA is not the world, the world is metric.
More to serving God than money (Score:2, Insightful)
There's also more to prosperity than financial prosperity. Life isn't supposed to be about being financially wealthy.
Before you give money to God's work, examine yourself and your heart. In my humble opinion, you should give because you want to serve the Lord and His work, not because you want Him to bless you in return. I'm not saying I'm perfect at that either. But it's something to think about. Be sure you're giving for the right reasons.
Why I'm tired (Score:3, Insightful)
I'm tired of being the guy everyone turns to for help.
I'm tired of fixing your computer, I'm tired of setting up this web site for you, I'm tired of undoing all the malware which you said, "Yes, I'd love to have everything installed from Spyware Incorporated automatically." Hundreds of people casually say, "Hey Mike, you're good with computers....." and explain to me what's wrong. Well, fuck off. Seriously, you got yourself into the mess, and if everyone I knew hadn't asked me at some point to help them on their computer, I'd do it. But it's obvious that a lot of people are fucking up their computers, so don't fuck up yours!
I'm tired of spending three hours letting you talk to me about your adonis. He's 6 years older than you. He probably didn't notice you. I'm tired of listening to you bitch and moan about how this guy you're kinda with is in Italy for the month. I'm tired of listening to you. Why don't you listen to me? There's a grand total of three people who I can talk to, who listen to me, what I have to say, what I have to get off my chest (thanks Steph, Karen, and Leah). Everyone else are ingrates. They know I keep secrets. Hell, I could make some of you so embarassed you'd go to a different school considering some of the things I've been told.
I'm tired of authoritative positions. I'll accept the responsibility, beacause for the most part, I don't have any trouble handling it, and it brings me out of the ranks of idiots. I just have trouble dealing with idiots once I'm in that authoritative. I'm tired of people criticizing me for not doing a job they've never even attempted properly. I'd like to see you try to manage a bunch of bumbling idiots with below average IQs who resent the fact that I'm in a management position. During the school year, I'd like to see you juggle a 30-hour-a-week-job, 10 hours a week on yearbook, 10 hours a week on stage crew, and AP and IB courses. The summer is my down time, the only time I'm not tired.
I'd like to see you all try. Yet, I'm still friends with you, because I'm nice. There are three people who I get something back from. You three are angels. I'm tired of everyone else, demons, devils, usurpers. You suck up my advice, you plead with me to help you. You bitch and moan about why I need to help you, why you need this so much. I'm. Fucking. Tired. Go spend some money, which you don't even make, it's usually daddy's money, and pay someone to help you. It's amazing what happens when you realize you can't rely on nice people anymore.
Is there anyone else out there who has to deal with this? The majority of the
How not to be tired... (Score:2, Insightful)
Yes, I did change my job (from being in IT for a large corp) to a small non-profit where people are much nicer; I make less for the same job of a Linux sysadmin, but it is such a joy to go to work for a place where people are not so materialistic and there is no office politics.
I doubt if this recipe will work for anyone else. But I think a simple life with a focus on human relationships -- rather than money -- helps make a more fulfilling (less emotionally tiring) life. If you are physically tired (rather than emotional/psychological, I mean), try a simple a brisk walk for 30 minutes a day.
Re:Agreed, insomnia is not a joke (Score:3, Insightful)
Men have a tendency to be sleepy after sex, whereas women don't have that tendency. It's a weird world. So women want to cuddle or get a back rub or something, when the guy just wants to sleep.
Re:Why I'm tired (Score:3, Insightful)
People will always pester you for being competent. That's one thing you don't want to spoil. Don't become a prick computer guru who think's his shyt don't stink. Just be practical, don't jump through hoops, but don't blow them off. This will benefit you later in life (how you get along with people counts for way more than you can imagine later on in your job, you'd be surprised). I'm not saying kiss ass, just don't overextend yourself.
"I'm tired of spending three hours letting you talk to me about your adonis."
Dude, ditch her ASAP. She's not a friend, she's a liability. Don't play the sucker role of nice guy, it doesn't give you any fun memories as an adult, just makes you feel embarassed for wasting your teen years being some hottie's whipping boy. You can even be rude about it: she doesn't matter, 1 year in college and you'll barely talk to these people, 2 years and they become old photographs, plus she'll benefit from the lesson it teaches her. (Gee, do _I_ sound bitter or what!
"I know I bring my work upon myself, but I feel I'm not being paid back for my work."
No offense, but once you lose this ingrained sense of entitlement, you won't be so mad at your job. I know people who bitch about how small their bonuses are, for real! It's free money and they complain. Just find something you like to do and hope it pays enough. If it doesn't pay enough, find cheap hobbies and learn to cook.
Sorry for turning
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Just do not let the cops find you (Score:1, Insightful)
Re:Agreed, insomnia is not a joke (Score:5, Insightful)