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Journal NCalGal's Journal: Starting to put it all out there 13

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Is it really possible to fall in love online? Hmmm? What the hell is this feeling that we sometimes get with someone online? Is it purely our fantasy of what we want in a mate? Is it our mind playing tricks on us? They say that sex is 90% in the brain. If so, then what about online chat? Not physical, only in our minds as we type, sometimes seeing someone's pic, sometimes not... Ahhh Hmmm? Sigh...
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  • Is it really possible to fall in love online? ... What the hell is this feeling that we sometimes get with someone online?

    I would say that it is definitely possible. But it can only go so far without real-world contact. The situation is the opposite from the normal one, where one meets someone and may or may not be attracted to that person on a physical basis. From that point, mannerisms and social behavior may or may not be compatible, and eventually more intimate intellectual and emotional compatib

    • Good factbased way to look at it. Clearly stepping back from any emotion and looking at the stages of attraction and love. For me, I liken it to women writing to men who are either out to sea, Alaska or in a war (for those who have never men). These are the woman who were given the name of a friend to write to, for he had no one. OK, maybe a leap, but nonetheless a way for people to correspond, like online, where they have never met. My guess is that many fell in love and possibly married later. Those feel
      • hello, very interesting point about online, relationships can be developed online again without attachments to the reality of who the person is, which is why those who lack confidance find the internet such an easy way to date... and of course those who lack confidence the most seem to be teens, and of course many geeks who may feel like the entire world is against them.

        I just friended you btw.
      • If you think about it, it's all about trusting that the person you see is an accurate representation of the real person. That's why college and the workplace are such fertile grounds - you spend enough time with the person to know who they are. Very good analogy to correspondence. I think that is the closest analogy. But even RL dating is an exercise in getting through to the actual person. Most people put up fronts of who they think they should be, or who you want them to be.

        The books sounds inter
  • That number (90% in the head) changes for women vs. men?

    I think women are much more cerebral in what turns them on, than men are.

    I also think that this is why seductions work. Because the IDEA of it is so sexy...

    Pix
  • (not to be confused with dubiousdave - one of our more esteemed /. alumni -- and as it turns out my real name is dave, but still this should in no way be confused with... oh never mind, you understand!)

    anyway... i am dubious about this "falling in love online."

    the woman i am (hopelessly) in love with, i did "meet online." but we didn't fall in love, online. in fact, we had known each other online for a number of years. i actually met her here. we had become friends just through posting in each other's journ
    • I don't think that either of you were willing to trust the medium, either. I think that both of you had reasons to be reserved - and so as a result, the nature of your online communication was different.

      I know I myself definitely fell in love with Sol online. It was her fault. She let me be her shieldmaiden (-:

      Pix
      • Good point about trusting the medium. It's a part of trusting that the person that you see through the medium is an accurate representation of the person in real life. Of course, there will be characteristics that do not represent well through this medium, but by and large I think that it is possible to provide an accurate representation. Of the Circle people that I have met in real life, this has been the case.

        Of late, I've been inclined to be more private because I am uncertain about the future and
        • Yep. The johndiii in real life is also instantly likeable, though he doesn't speak only in love poems, but I guess that follows obviously from the first part of this sentence.
      • maiden?

        I guess you fooled her with your online persona. ;-)

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