citizenc's Journal: SWG Seeks Rebound Girl Friend

I figured out what was bothering me so much -- I'm lonely. Not unhappy -- I love my family and friends very much. However, I see the way that Christine is with Andrew, and I miss that kind of relationship.

I mean, really -- I'm not a bad-looking guy.. I have a steady job, I'm intelligent, smart, I don't smoke or drink, and I'm funny.

So why am I alone? Because women seem to see me only as a friend. One of the gang. Somebody to gossip with.

Ouch.

I try to meet women, and for the most part I do -- but I get sucked back into that friendship pattern every fucking time. But what can I do about it? I have no idea.

Kill me now.

mp3(REM - Everybody Hurts)!(128kbps/5m20s)

Really easy...

[Mike-3DAP]

Don't treat them as you would treat your normal friends. Make them feel special, more wanted, loved. In about 61.20193% of cases with girls, girls tend to like you more if they know you like them but haven't told them. Thus, that is your new approach. Look in her general direction, make eyecontact for 1 second, quickly look away, and then look happy. Works every time... Or at least, at one time... If they like you a bit back anyway... Oh well, just lose the 'brother-sister' vibe between you and the female friend in question at that specific time :)

Let me guess...

[Priam]

Let me guess, you're one of those guys who's got a bunch of girl friends, and they all come to you and cry on your shoulder about what an asshole their boyfriend is being. And you're thinking to yourself... How can ALL of my friends be dating these total assholes? Why do they DO that to themselves? What is it about assholes that is so attractive to girls? I mean, look at me. Here I am, being supportive, letting them cry on me, making them feel better, and by the way I'm NOT ugly, etc etc. And what do they do? They get right back with the same asshole guy. I'm doing everything that girls *say* they want in a guy -- being supportive and listening to them (and not being ugly), and yet it never occurs to them to ditch their current asshole and give me a chance instead.

See, the trouble is, in real life, girls don't actually go for the type of guy they *say* they want. You know, the Sensitive Guy. Those guys end up being the shoulder to cry on, every time. I met a Sensitive Guy about 2 years ago. (He too was plagued with the friendship trap.) I was just starting college, and having never had a successful relationship in high school, I put some serious thought into what kind of guy I wanted to be with. And I realized, hey... I don't want to be with a Confident, Outgoing Guy who's Really Hot and has lots of Muscles. The kind of guy who gets all the girls will ditch me as soon as there's someone better. As soon as I woke up and realized that all of those guys really suck to be in a relationship with, my aforementioned Sensitive Guy had his lucky day and we've been together ever since. Do you *know* how wonderful it is to be with a guy who knows how to be Romantic, who's not afraid to express his Feelings, and who makes me feel Beautiful? Oh yeah, and he swing dances. :)

So my point is, there should be a national campaign or something for girls to WAKE THE FUCK UP. Once they realize that a guy like you is the secret to all happiness, they'll be beating down your door. (cynicism ->) However, once that happens, all of the attention will go to your head and you'll become an overconfident asshole like everyone else. Yep, I've seen it happen.

Until then, keep your shoulders open. And use that eye contact thing mentioned in another post! That's a great trick.

Good luck!